Love VS Lust

So...I've been doing more thinking. I was thinking that boy there seems to be a fine line between lust and love. I mean you feel all tingly all over, you love being around that person, and of course it's probably the best sex ever.

The question becomes: is the sex making you feel all tingly all over or is it that you really love this person. Im of course not talking about myself...lol...remember I'm single now..lol.

So of course I did some research of the real definition of the two from Answers.com:
Lust: Intense or unrestrained sexual craving.
Love: A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.


I can see that a nice lengthy definition was given for love and surely not for lust. I'm sure that all of us have felt a bit of lust. I know I have...We all sinned in the eye's of God...lol

How do we figure out the difference and act accordingly. Well, I've been trying to think of my own version of a definition for lust and love which would be clear and concise and hopefully we can all steer clear

Lust:
1) if all u can think about is this other person's famous moves.
2) it's hard for u to think of this person outside of the bedroom (big prob)
3) the person can only be attentive when they're being pleased (bigger prob)

Glad none of that has EVER happened to me

Love:
1) you want so much for this person
2) you would put them before yourself
30 you think about this person, their well-being daily, and even their family

I definitely had a bit of that..

I think only time can really tell between the two. Oh once again we all have to be patient.

Men Trouble

So...I know it's been a super long time. I've been debating writing about whats been on my mind, but whatever. So, I always want to write about men probs...lol. I just get so irritated with men. I could like slap all of them...

So, I am recently single. No fault of my own..lol, at least I don't think so. I'm laughing when I write this, but I'm really serious. I've never read the book "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" or something like that, but I think I agree, because it seems like men are simply out of the loop about women. Like you would think that they never had a mother or a sister or anything...I mean damn...Goodness!!

Whoa...I feel better already..

So, my ex had the problems of being inconsiderate and rude. I don't believe he thought he was, but I've consulted with a few men and women and I'm pretty positive now..some situations were rude. I mean if someone is cooking u a meal out of the goodness of their heart, you shut up and eat..then later make suggestions...

BTW my cooking is freaking gourmet and I don't want this to be mistaken as me not being able to throw down.

But anyway that is over....Which leads me to another whole can of worms....

How do you get over an ex??

I mean there are sooo many things that have been suggested like dating, take a break, deleting numbers and all form of communication (which I do), but which one really works??? I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions. I'll be good for like a couple of wks then he will re-surface and mess everything all up...I felt like I was in "2 Can Play that Game" and he did the whole transference of energy shit on me..lol. Back to the drawing board!!!

My girl told me something so helpful..."If he loved you, he would change...since He hasn't change then there's your answer."

Such a harsh reality....

But I wanna put this out there since my birthday is coming up on Feb 16...I'm being perfectly clear...but anyways..I want Dwight Howard for my birthday...AND I accept birthday presents year around so don't feel bad if you miss the exact day..


MUAH!!!! Love you all!!

How fast is too fast to fall in love??

I was just wondering how fast is too fast to fall head over heels for someone? Like should you be dating like over a year before you fall in love? And is there a such thing as love at first sight?

I was just wondering because I have always been a person that gets emotionally attached to guys too fast. I have always found it difficult to follow a certain protocol as to when something should be done. Oh, I shouldn't cook for a man until he deserves me to do it. Or even how soon is appropriate to have sex for the first time. I usually just go with my flow. Sure I've been hurt numerous times along the way, but I always figured that I wasn't the one with the problem. And eventually God would send someone my way who appreciated me going out of my way. I like to cook, clean, take care of my man, take care of myself, etc...And in the past men have all taken it for granted.

I do believe that this time around I have found a good one. He is very mature and has his shit in order. No kids, a great job that isn't in danger of disappearing due to current layoffs in the economy, and he had never been married...oh yea has his own house. That is a little too good to be sure, I'm sure everyone is thinking. Shit my mom and I was thinking the exact same thing. I haven't found any major problems. He does have a trust issue we're working on due to his ex, but so far so good.

I feel like I have been living in fast forward for so long, and now I get to slow down. Who knows maybe you guys will see me with a big belly in about 1yr. Only God knows

Strange Encounter

So, I recently stopped associating with this guy. We went on 2 dates nothing major, I was feeling him, but something that he did in his past really weighed on my mind. We first started talking in early spring, but I disappeared. I moved back home and hit him back to see how he had been. Why he got married. He knew the girl for only a few months and now he was on a date with me, obviously things weren't going well. The rationale behind it was that they wanted to live together and she wouldn't unless they were married, so he figured what the hell. That I could believe it. I was in denial for a hot minute. I thought he was play with me. I had to tell him that he wasnt very funny and he needed to stop immediately..HA HA u need to stop. So, I saw him about 2 more times. All a while I couldn't get past the fact he married. He got divorce, or I guess that would be an annulment from his newlywed wife.

I stopped talking to him like I started out with. I couldn't get past his view of marriage. Obviously, he didn't regard it as being too important. SO, what I really am trying to get to is that he send me a text talking about, "when I (me) said that we met for a reason, what was that?"

I simply feel like God brings people into our live for various reasons. I feel that we should learn something from every person that comes into our lives, rather they are around for 1 season or many seasons. And it's up to each of us to decipher what the moral of the story is of each encounter

How to Handle Everyone and Everything!!! PLEASE HELP

How do you stay strong for a loved one? I know that is a strong and straightforward statement...but I really want to know. I feel so overwhelmed and stressed and worried and so many other emotions I simply don't know what to do.

SO I will just tell everyone what is going on. I moved back home to live with my mom when I moved back from Florida. And two weeks later she founded out she had breast cancer. She cried everyday. And all I could do is tell her everything would be ok. She would cry so hard...to the point of almost choking...and drinking and cry more.

All I could do is hold her and tell her that everything happens for a reason. My mom smoked cigarettes for over 30yrs. I simply tell her that God gave her something that could be replaced..boobs r replaced..but lungs aren't. I know that is a hard way to look at things, but is simply the truth.

My mom has had one of her breast removed and was told that she wouldnt need Chemo. Its been hard right now. I've been taking her to her doctor appointments. And of course keeping the Dr.'s on their toes...lol, but today we found out she will need Chemo and she will now have to get cut on again..

We found out she really did have Cancer..before they said she had pre-cancer.

I am going crazy right now. I am working alot trying to gather up more clientele for my personal training and I have started my LSAT Kaplan course which is 12hr of class time and about 20hrs outside of class.

I am trying to balance my girlfriends stress with their men problems and school concerns and I am getting thoroughly exhausted. I feel like people get so wrapped up in their lives they don't realize the stress that others maybe feeling. I try to be extremely attentive to my friends and family. And to give advice and a good ear to all. Sometimes it feels like I can't get in how I'm feeling. I can't talk to my mom about this. She seems so sad and rightfully so.

SO to my readers...how should I deal with all of this. I want to do well in my Kaplan course so that I score well on the LSAT and get into a good law school. I want to be everything my mom needs me to be to help her get through this. And I want to be there for my girlfriends.

I dont know what to do...

I WANT TO CRY BUT SIMPLY CANT!!!

Ridiculous Bailout Plan!!! Please Explain to me how this is helps me??

OMG my annoyance is on a whole other level right now with this bailout plan. I mean I'm like fuming over here. This shit is outrageous. Why am I going to be paying to bailout ppl on Wall Street when I can't bail out my damn self. I'm one of many Americans that are struggling and hella broke. I don't have any government intervention to help me out. SO, since the government is giving these banks money to help them, does that mean that I will be able to get a loan?? Hell no...I've been forced to used credit cards to live off of since the job market is so shitty!!

My irritation is just off the charts. If my taxes are going to be risen then can it be done for me. I want to bail myself out. And Wall Street should have been forced to bail itself out. All of these ppl are making huge salaries, and they're salaries should have been used to fix this.

Can I get some Universal Health Care..Can they put more money into Education, instead of cutting it every time I turn around..Can teachers get paid more...Can money go back into music and art...Can money go into children's physical education (since obesity is on a constant rise)

It doesn't take a genius to figure out that this government is run by corruption. The Rich is looking out for the the Rich. And everyone else is forced to find some wealthy person's bootstraps to hold on to!!!

Simply Ridiculous

The boyfriend every girl would want (From friend Diana, I loved this)

NO! Don’t​ close​ it, Read till the end!


When you break​ her heart​ - [ the pain NEVER​ reall​y goes away ]
When she misse​s you - [ she'​s hurti​ng insid​e ]
When she says its over - [ she STILL​ wants​ you to be hers ]
When she repos​ts this bulle​tin - [ she wants​ you to read it ]
When she walks​ away from you mad - [ Follo​w her]
When she stare​'​s at your mouth​ - [ Kiss her ]
When she pushe​s you or hit'​s you - [ Grab her and don’t​ let go ]
When she start​'​s cursi​ng at you - [ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]
When she ignor​e'​s you - [ Give her your atten​tion]​
When she pulls​ away - [ Pull her back ]
When you see her at her worst​ - [ Tell her she'​s beaut​iful ]
When you see her start​ cryin​g - [​Just hold her and don’t​ say a word ]
When you see her walki​ng - [ Sneak​ up and hug her waist​ from behin​d ]
When she'​s scare​d - [ Prote​ct her ]
When she lay'​s her head on your shoul​der - [ Tilt her head up and kiss her ]
When she steal​'​s your favor​ite hat - [ Let her keep it and sleep​ with it for a night​]​
When she tease​'​s you - [ Tease​ her back and make her laugh​ ]
When she doesn​’t answe​r for a long time - [ reass​ure her that every​thing​ is okay ]
When she looks​ at you with doubt​ - [ Back yours​elf up with the TRUTH​]​
When she say'​s that she like'​s you - [ she reall​y does more than you could​ under​stand​ ]
When she grab'​s at your hands​ - [ Hold her'​s and play with her finge​rs ]
When she bump'​s into you - [ bump into her back and make her laugh​ ]
When she tells​ you a secre​t - [ keep it safe and untol​d ]
When she looks​ at you in your eyes - [ don’t​ look away until​ she does ]

- Stay on the phone​ with her even if she’s​ not sayin​g anyth​ing
-​DON'​T let her have the last word
-​DON'​T call her hot, But Gorge​ous or beaut​iful is soo much bette​r
- Say you love her more than she could​ ever love you
- Argue​ that she is the best girl ever
- When she'​s mad hug her tight​ and don'​t let go
- When she says she'​s ok don’t​ belie​ve it, talk with her
- becau​se 10 yrs later​ she'​ll remem​ber you
- Call her at 12:​00am on her birth​day to tell her you love her
- Call her befor​e you sleep​ and after​ you wake up
- Treat​ her like she'​s all that matte​rs to you
- Tease​ her and let her tease​ you back
-​Stay up all night​ with her when she'​s sick
- Watch​ her favor​ite movie​ with her or her favor​ite show even if you think​ its stupi​d
- Give her the world​
- Let her wear your cloth​es
- When she'​s bored​ and sad, hang out with her
- Let her know she'​s impor​tant
- Kiss her in the pouri​ng rain
- When she runs up at you cryin​g,​ the first​ thing​ you say is;
"​Who'​s ass am I kicki​ng today​ baby?​"​