How fast is too fast to fall in love??

I was just wondering how fast is too fast to fall head over heels for someone? Like should you be dating like over a year before you fall in love? And is there a such thing as love at first sight?

I was just wondering because I have always been a person that gets emotionally attached to guys too fast. I have always found it difficult to follow a certain protocol as to when something should be done. Oh, I shouldn't cook for a man until he deserves me to do it. Or even how soon is appropriate to have sex for the first time. I usually just go with my flow. Sure I've been hurt numerous times along the way, but I always figured that I wasn't the one with the problem. And eventually God would send someone my way who appreciated me going out of my way. I like to cook, clean, take care of my man, take care of myself, etc...And in the past men have all taken it for granted.

I do believe that this time around I have found a good one. He is very mature and has his shit in order. No kids, a great job that isn't in danger of disappearing due to current layoffs in the economy, and he had never been married...oh yea has his own house. That is a little too good to be sure, I'm sure everyone is thinking. Shit my mom and I was thinking the exact same thing. I haven't found any major problems. He does have a trust issue we're working on due to his ex, but so far so good.

I feel like I have been living in fast forward for so long, and now I get to slow down. Who knows maybe you guys will see me with a big belly in about 1yr. Only God knows

Strange Encounter

So, I recently stopped associating with this guy. We went on 2 dates nothing major, I was feeling him, but something that he did in his past really weighed on my mind. We first started talking in early spring, but I disappeared. I moved back home and hit him back to see how he had been. Why he got married. He knew the girl for only a few months and now he was on a date with me, obviously things weren't going well. The rationale behind it was that they wanted to live together and she wouldn't unless they were married, so he figured what the hell. That I could believe it. I was in denial for a hot minute. I thought he was play with me. I had to tell him that he wasnt very funny and he needed to stop immediately..HA HA u need to stop. So, I saw him about 2 more times. All a while I couldn't get past the fact he married. He got divorce, or I guess that would be an annulment from his newlywed wife.

I stopped talking to him like I started out with. I couldn't get past his view of marriage. Obviously, he didn't regard it as being too important. SO, what I really am trying to get to is that he send me a text talking about, "when I (me) said that we met for a reason, what was that?"

I simply feel like God brings people into our live for various reasons. I feel that we should learn something from every person that comes into our lives, rather they are around for 1 season or many seasons. And it's up to each of us to decipher what the moral of the story is of each encounter

How to Handle Everyone and Everything!!! PLEASE HELP

How do you stay strong for a loved one? I know that is a strong and straightforward statement...but I really want to know. I feel so overwhelmed and stressed and worried and so many other emotions I simply don't know what to do.

SO I will just tell everyone what is going on. I moved back home to live with my mom when I moved back from Florida. And two weeks later she founded out she had breast cancer. She cried everyday. And all I could do is tell her everything would be ok. She would cry so hard...to the point of almost choking...and drinking and cry more.

All I could do is hold her and tell her that everything happens for a reason. My mom smoked cigarettes for over 30yrs. I simply tell her that God gave her something that could be replaced..boobs r replaced..but lungs aren't. I know that is a hard way to look at things, but is simply the truth.

My mom has had one of her breast removed and was told that she wouldnt need Chemo. Its been hard right now. I've been taking her to her doctor appointments. And of course keeping the Dr.'s on their toes...lol, but today we found out she will need Chemo and she will now have to get cut on again..

We found out she really did have Cancer..before they said she had pre-cancer.

I am going crazy right now. I am working alot trying to gather up more clientele for my personal training and I have started my LSAT Kaplan course which is 12hr of class time and about 20hrs outside of class.

I am trying to balance my girlfriends stress with their men problems and school concerns and I am getting thoroughly exhausted. I feel like people get so wrapped up in their lives they don't realize the stress that others maybe feeling. I try to be extremely attentive to my friends and family. And to give advice and a good ear to all. Sometimes it feels like I can't get in how I'm feeling. I can't talk to my mom about this. She seems so sad and rightfully so.

SO to my readers...how should I deal with all of this. I want to do well in my Kaplan course so that I score well on the LSAT and get into a good law school. I want to be everything my mom needs me to be to help her get through this. And I want to be there for my girlfriends.

I dont know what to do...

I WANT TO CRY BUT SIMPLY CANT!!!

Ridiculous Bailout Plan!!! Please Explain to me how this is helps me??

OMG my annoyance is on a whole other level right now with this bailout plan. I mean I'm like fuming over here. This shit is outrageous. Why am I going to be paying to bailout ppl on Wall Street when I can't bail out my damn self. I'm one of many Americans that are struggling and hella broke. I don't have any government intervention to help me out. SO, since the government is giving these banks money to help them, does that mean that I will be able to get a loan?? Hell no...I've been forced to used credit cards to live off of since the job market is so shitty!!

My irritation is just off the charts. If my taxes are going to be risen then can it be done for me. I want to bail myself out. And Wall Street should have been forced to bail itself out. All of these ppl are making huge salaries, and they're salaries should have been used to fix this.

Can I get some Universal Health Care..Can they put more money into Education, instead of cutting it every time I turn around..Can teachers get paid more...Can money go back into music and art...Can money go into children's physical education (since obesity is on a constant rise)

It doesn't take a genius to figure out that this government is run by corruption. The Rich is looking out for the the Rich. And everyone else is forced to find some wealthy person's bootstraps to hold on to!!!

Simply Ridiculous

The boyfriend every girl would want (From friend Diana, I loved this)

NO! Don’t​ close​ it, Read till the end!


When you break​ her heart​ - [ the pain NEVER​ reall​y goes away ]
When she misse​s you - [ she'​s hurti​ng insid​e ]
When she says its over - [ she STILL​ wants​ you to be hers ]
When she repos​ts this bulle​tin - [ she wants​ you to read it ]
When she walks​ away from you mad - [ Follo​w her]
When she stare​'​s at your mouth​ - [ Kiss her ]
When she pushe​s you or hit'​s you - [ Grab her and don’t​ let go ]
When she start​'​s cursi​ng at you - [ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]
When she ignor​e'​s you - [ Give her your atten​tion]​
When she pulls​ away - [ Pull her back ]
When you see her at her worst​ - [ Tell her she'​s beaut​iful ]
When you see her start​ cryin​g - [​Just hold her and don’t​ say a word ]
When you see her walki​ng - [ Sneak​ up and hug her waist​ from behin​d ]
When she'​s scare​d - [ Prote​ct her ]
When she lay'​s her head on your shoul​der - [ Tilt her head up and kiss her ]
When she steal​'​s your favor​ite hat - [ Let her keep it and sleep​ with it for a night​]​
When she tease​'​s you - [ Tease​ her back and make her laugh​ ]
When she doesn​’t answe​r for a long time - [ reass​ure her that every​thing​ is okay ]
When she looks​ at you with doubt​ - [ Back yours​elf up with the TRUTH​]​
When she say'​s that she like'​s you - [ she reall​y does more than you could​ under​stand​ ]
When she grab'​s at your hands​ - [ Hold her'​s and play with her finge​rs ]
When she bump'​s into you - [ bump into her back and make her laugh​ ]
When she tells​ you a secre​t - [ keep it safe and untol​d ]
When she looks​ at you in your eyes - [ don’t​ look away until​ she does ]

- Stay on the phone​ with her even if she’s​ not sayin​g anyth​ing
-​DON'​T let her have the last word
-​DON'​T call her hot, But Gorge​ous or beaut​iful is soo much bette​r
- Say you love her more than she could​ ever love you
- Argue​ that she is the best girl ever
- When she'​s mad hug her tight​ and don'​t let go
- When she says she'​s ok don’t​ belie​ve it, talk with her
- becau​se 10 yrs later​ she'​ll remem​ber you
- Call her at 12:​00am on her birth​day to tell her you love her
- Call her befor​e you sleep​ and after​ you wake up
- Treat​ her like she'​s all that matte​rs to you
- Tease​ her and let her tease​ you back
-​Stay up all night​ with her when she'​s sick
- Watch​ her favor​ite movie​ with her or her favor​ite show even if you think​ its stupi​d
- Give her the world​
- Let her wear your cloth​es
- When she'​s bored​ and sad, hang out with her
- Let her know she'​s impor​tant
- Kiss her in the pouri​ng rain
- When she runs up at you cryin​g,​ the first​ thing​ you say is;
"​Who'​s ass am I kicki​ng today​ baby?​"​

Why are career women single???

http://www.soulcast.com/post/show/26232/Why-(black)-career-women-are-most-of-the-time-single

Hey you guys, read this. My girl sent me this because she thought I would find this interesting...and of course I did. So, basically this article explains why career women are single. It says that successful women are single because they are perceived to either not need a man due to their success or simply because they are waiting for someone who is on their level.

I definitely agree with this. Women out number men, I believe 51%-49% in this country. Not to mention we live longer. So, of the 49% of men in this country, it seems that the gay population is ever growing (seems like that, but who knows), then you add in unemployed, under-employed, uneducated, or in jail...after all of that no wonder educated women can't find a man...shit I bet regular women can't either.

Do I feel that men feel inferior??? Maybe to a degree. I try to steer clear of a men like that. I make sure that I make that crystal clear. I have a fairly strong personality and I figure that if you can't handle my personality then maybe u should kick rocks. I definitely don't want a man that I can push around..lol

But in general I have come in contact with men that appreciate an educated woman, but they are also educated themselves. And they would have it no other way, but I have also had my share of idiots. I have had someone say "why do I need to be educated...shit I'm already making millions playing football?"...I will leave this person's name out..

But tell me what you think. Men are u intimated by a strong women? Do u prefer an ignorant woman (pet/puppet) that does your every will...

Don't be afraid..you can be anonymous....lol
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"I Don't Date Dark-Skinned Women" --- ???

So, the other day, my girl and I was talking and she told me that a guy told her that he doesn't date dark skin women. I found this to be crazy. What is wrong with these men??

I have seen this type of behavior before personally when it comes to hair length. But my question is should this simply be called preference?? I mean this definitely seems to be a bit of self hate, as my girl J put it. The interesting thing is that mostly dark skin guys, from my experience, are the ones saying this ridiculous stuff.

Next question: if I say that I don't date fat men, am I discriminating?? Or is that just considered normal? Or if someone says that they don't date skinny girls??

My friend's experience of just one of the sort I have heard recently. I have had guys tell me also they don't date dark skinned women and I found myself thinking they were extremely ignorant and was reminded of the profound reminisce from slavery when the slaves treated lighter slaves better than the darker ones.

I don't know maybe I'm over thinking this one? Who knows?

What do u think?

Where are all the cute great educated men of the World / Country??

Can the usual statement of “there are no good men left” be used in this day and age?

I think like most educated women of the US, finding a good man seems almost impossible. There is always a catch, underlining problem, or the timing is simply off. Can you have your cake and eat it too. I know for myself I have had more than my share of loser guys. I mean a new batch seems to be dispersed every year. So where all the good guys at? And if we knew a good one could we spot him? I definitely don't know. I had a good one and moved and didn't know when I would return. I returned sooner than later. So, does that mean we should automatically get back together? I don't necessarily think that is the case. If you were in love back then, does that automatically mean that as soon as you see that person your going to fall back madly in love with this person??

I have started a new thing with new men I meet. I find out their 5 year plan. Is that a bit too much? I figure that I am getting to old to be dealing with scrubs. I have a 5 year plan, so they should have one too. I am educated and about to go to law school and I have to be around someone that is on my level

Men...

Am I going overboard? I don't think so... Men let me know

Parents Just Don't Understand

Why does it suck so badly to move back home?

I mean its like parents don’t listen. They’re hard of hearing. I’m asked to do something. Sure, let’s get that done. Or I’ve explained why it can’t be done immediately, but once I’m able to do so, I most definitely will. SO why is it 2 days later or sometimes the next day parents ask you to do the very same things you just spend 20mins explaining the previous day. Is it early set on of Alzheimer’s or is it simply they don’t listen.

This is definitely something that needs to be fixed. I don’t know how to do so, but someone needs to figure it out. I guess sometimes valuable information falls on deaf ears.

Changing life directions

So, how do you know when to close one chapter in your life and be begin another? I mean does a light suddenly click in your head or you have a sudden awakening? I mean I've been doing track and field all my life. It's all I've known for the past 10yrs or so. I've run professionally for 3yrs. Its been quite challenging financially and I've lost the love for it. I've always wanted to help people and wanted to go to law school to work at the United Nations.

So why is saying goodbye to track so difficult? I wonder if I am thinking about what other people may said about me calling it quits. But I don't believe I am. And of course everyone has an option on the matter. Some people say, "Can you live with this decision?" and others say "Good, go for it!"

Well, I think its time to call it quits. I have just been doing personal training at a gym. This has allowed me to keep my passion for people's health and awareness. So, that has been great!!

And I've been doing some research for different law schools. This process makes me so nervous. I'm guessing this is how people usually feel when they embark on a new quest in life. It's been super exciting. I have started applications for over 10 schools so far. And now enrolled in a Kaplan LSAT course. It's unbelievable how much they charge for those things. I mean $1299-$1499 for course classes. Ridiculous...Oh the price of the HOPE for success (hopefully that makes sense).

Maybe I am so nervous and that is why I am debating quitting track? Maybe this is to be expected? I really don't know. I guess I will find out..

What do you think??